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What’s the best way to keep good relationships when you resign?

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    Tell the truth and find ways to reach out down the road.

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    Be respectful and polite. Give proper notice. Offer to help with new hires, transitioning, or training. Do not make it personal. Focus on what is ahead and not on what has happened. Telling your boss how terrible they are or that they suck at their job may feel good, but it's not helping anyone. The odds that they'll change are slim to none so leave it alone. Youre better off telling them you loved working wor them and are thankful for all the help and opportunities they presented you with. Wish them luck. Ask for references and phone numbers. Connect with them on LinkedIn.

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    ensure that you do everything possible to help the transition and let everyone there know how thankful you were for the opportunity

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    "Resign" on "a good note", and without "burning any bridges" behind you. Being thankful for the time you had with your coworkers and supervisor(s). And, if you happen to still owe anyone any money, PAY THEM BACK BEFORE YOU LEAVE.Then make efforts to keep in touch, if that would be appropriate of course.

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    Start by resigning in a professional manner. For example, mention about how much you've learned and appreciated working at the company but that it is in your own better interest to move onto another position. Most people will be understanding of your decision. If you resign on bad terms, it is very hard to maintain a good relationship. As well, keep in touch. Send your old boss updates asking how he/she is doing, how you are doing, etc. This will add a personal separating business relationships from personal relationships. Finally, a nice touch right before you leave would be to leave a note to your superior explaining how grateful you are for their mentor-ship, highlighting the key moments that brought you to the position you're in now, and thanking them for their guidance. This small gesture really goes a long way and keeps your relationship strong!

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    just be polite and professional

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    Give as much lead time as possible when resigning. Finish out your term strong. Send a thank you note to the entire team with your new contact information. Schedule to follow-up periodically with your former employer/team.

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    A good note to leaving candidate that how he/she helped to company to grow.

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    Stay in touch. With the people you have good relations. Go see them at work and take them to lunch.

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    Give an appropriate amount of notice, have your responsibilities and general annual ‘to dos’ outlined, make yourself available to assist with the transition of a new hire into your position, and do not bad mouth your prior employer(s).

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    leave on good terms tell them how great it was to work with them and keep in touch with email and text and social media

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    resign on good terms. do not insult others on your way out saying now I can get this off my chest since I will not be here anymore. You all S-ck or something like that. Make them feel you wil miss them even if you won't

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    If it was a positive relationship at work, best not to lose touch. Send a note over the internet ( facebook, etc. ). Communication makes all the difference.

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    Maintain contact with respect and consideration. The relationship will only endure if they know you care about them.

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    Be the top producer or most important piece to the company.

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    Give advance notice and help train your replacement

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    Be respectful and thankful.

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    Resign on good terms and remain in contact.

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    Send a grateful farewell note.

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    Go in tell them you are done and leave.

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    Give plentiful warning about departure. Make yourself as available as possible for transition

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    Keep it simple and polite.

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    Be straight up why you are resigning and work out your notice.

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    Keep your resignation succinct, and don't mention anything other than being happy for the opportunity you had. Offer a proper window for leaving and knowledge transfer.

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    This is such a tough question because I think it depends on your relationship with the manager. My recommendation is to continue to do your job and exceeding expectations. A lot of things that I heard from managers or previous managers when individuals leave is that once individuals give their two weeks is they stop working or doing their job. Once individuals stop doing that it leaves a bad taste in your previous firm's mouth.

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    Write s formal letter of resignations. Allow at least 2 weeks so someone can step in don't change your strategies just keep improving them ,constructive criticism is always good to accept when trying to improve

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    Having good relationships while you're employed, cultivate relationships while employed and connect on social media.

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    To make good relationships before you resign. In addition, by maintaining contact, for example through LinkedIn, post employment.

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    Continue to be present in past colleagues lives. Have a lunch date and discuss life matters, challenges and successes you or your former employer is having. Pay attention to what is going on in their career and be a source of support, celebration or insight. When you want stay on good terms with a former employer take the time to invest in a professional relationship with them. Play golf / tennis, grab the power lunch, do the dinner but while you're doing these events focus on making a sincere and real connection with the people you're with. This is how you continue good relationships even with a company you may no longer be with.

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    Keep in contact with the friends you made!!

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    Give a 2 weeks notice

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    Maintain respectful interactions.

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    Be mature, and focus on the positive things about the time you spent there.

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    Donate your organs to them.

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    Integrity, self-awareness, empathy, honest communication

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    Two week notice always.

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    Don't be a jerk. Remember that good relationships are not one-sided.

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    Give the required amount of notice and don't make statements you might regret.

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    To resign in a polite way and be appreciative of the opportunity you had in that role.

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    For me I believe keeping a good relationship when you're resigning comes with the way in which you resign. It should be something with at least 2 weeks notice and wording in which it allows your employer to know you appreciated the opportunity you were able to have at their company and grew professionally - but you are excited for your potential to learn and grow with another company as well.

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    leave a treat in the break room

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    Dont change your work ethics

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    Stay connected via Linked in. Give praise through the platform for former co-workers accomplishments.

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    Don't burn bridges on the way out.

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    be respectful with notice and timing

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    Resign with discipline, good attitude, humour and in accordance to company policy and provisions of the law.

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    Never speak poorly about a former company. Don’t recruit former employees when They are still employed.

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    Write a good bye thank you email and send out to company

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    Stay connected on linkedin and be nice.

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    Give notice. Leave on good terms. Leave documentation about what you need to leave documentation for. Generally, I advise making a clean break and not agreeing to work part-time afterwards.

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    Say what needs to be said from a place of honesty intended to improve the situation, rather than out of spite or anger.

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    Social media and regular get-togethers!

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    Go out on a good note

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    Don't keep the relationship

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    Best way to keep a good relationship upon leaving a company. Be constructive not destructive. When in the exit interview list things you felt the company could have done to keep you or things you feel they need to improve upon. Do not curse or bad mouth anyone be positive and cordial. If you are leaving because of a bad manager list dates and topics where you felt the manager was wrong or inappropriate. Documentation is key in correcting any and all issues.

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    always be nice with your former mates. update them with your new life

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    being always Helpful,Loyal and Honest towards them. Most importantly share your knowledge fully before resigning.

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    Keep in touch through Facebook or by sending birthday or Xmas cards. Don’t talk bad about your former employment.

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    - Don't keep re-hashing shared workplace stuff - Especially avoid bad-mouthing the old workplace - Avoid unprofessional behaviour (e.g. poaching old customers)

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    Give at least a 2 weeks notice and be honest about the reasons you leave and the changes you would like to see on the company in a polite way

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    Keep work out of the conversation

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    It depends on the circumstance always try to leave or step down with respect

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    If resigning because of working conditions, burn those bridges. If resigning for other reasons, stay positive and sincere.

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    Be honest -- but just thank them for the opportunity.

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    Keep it straight but say it respectfully

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    Show sensitivity and care about the place you leave. Make sure you hand over all your work and relevant knowledge for a seamless transition for the company.

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    Do it on terms that are reasonable for both you and your employer.

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    Call or FB the person

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    Always give a two week notice and be open about the reasons you are leaving. If you are unhappy under the current management, then possibly you have found a position which fits with your personality and skills better. Be prepared with a positive answer when and if you are asked why you are leaving. Most importantly, follow the current company's procedures on your notice and other departure details.

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    Maintain continued communication with coworkers that isn’t solely focused on work-only topics. Make it more personal.

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    Be kind don’t talk badly about the job or people in a bad way. Leave it off social media

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    Exchange personal emails and linkedIn contacts, and don't be a prick.

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    2 week notice and work until the very end.

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    Stay polite, friendly, and genuine.

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    Don’t speak negatively about anyone.

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    Don't say anything negative about your former employer

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    Be friendly about it.

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    Give proper notice of your leaving so that you’re not leaving them short handed

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    Give 2 weeks notice

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    Be sure to thank your employer for the things you learned there. Explain that you feel it's time to move on but that you hope you can stay friends.

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    Give two weeks and work those weeks

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    Visit regularly and buy them gifts on Christmas.

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    Give advance notice and make sure they know your leaving because a better opportunity arose.

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    graciously and with advanced notice.

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    Be honest about why you are leaving without trashing people or the company. Tell your manager what you appreciated about their leadership. Don't trash talk the company once you leave. Be respectful of colleagues and management. If possible, offer your willingness to be called if something informational arises that the company needs to know.

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    Do the best you can, give employer at least 2 weeks notice, and be a civil human being.

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    Be upfront with why you’re leaving. Do everything possible to ensure a successful transition to anyone taking new responsibilities.

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    Just never talk to those people again.

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    Stay away from work place, if u contact anyone there due to friendships, do not ask or discuss work or personnel issues.

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    Plan the resignation in advance and share that with the team. Maintain friendships inside and outside the office.

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    Tell the truth and nothing but the truth.

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    Wish everyone well when you leave.

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    Say apologies even thought u haven't committed one

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    Smile and be positive with everyone

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    You make it clear that your resignation does not reflect on the people you worked with, and you do all that you can - both before and after you leave - not to leave people in the lurch. Finish what you can or take things to a natural break point, document the rest well, and be accessible for questions. Too many people when they leave try to do things to 'stick it to the man' but they usually only wind up hurting their former friends and coworkers. That only guarantees that you will never be welcome back and that no on will be wiling to act as a reference for you in the future.

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    giving notice, working through your notice and communication

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    Resign with respect and dignity ... give 2 weeks notice, thank those managers and mentors for what they meant to you, etc.

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    Pay you year to end salary

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    Resignation is a decision to help one move forward. If that is the choice than the team should be in support and it should be done professionally and gracefully.

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    Don't screw around with anyone. Be respectful. No nasty postings on social media.

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    Connect on LinkedIn.

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    Again, treat people with respect. Be forthcoming with your feedback and humble / thankful for the opportunity afforded to you to work there

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    Provide a 2 weeks notice, let the employer know your situation.

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    Have a good relationship to start with.

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    If you are resigning from a team/company with a good culture - it is easy - just be upfront and try to lower any possible disruption to the minimum possible. If the place was already hostile - not much you can do besides following all the rules.

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    Keep working up until the last minute; be honest in your exit interview but do not take that as an opportunity to vent; give at least 2 weeks notice; leave your boss a thank you note if appropriate; offer to answer questions or help transition your replacement;

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    Give proper notice, leave on good terms.

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    Let your manager/boss/HR/higher ups know well in advance that you plan on leaving, maybe even suggest a replacement & to train them. Let them know how & where to contact you for a time to answer any transition questions, your business passwords, spreadsheets, etc...

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    If you have a good relationship with someone or a team, the best way to maintain that relationship will be through social media. Also, trying to get together for lunch quarterly.

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    Give plenty of notice and offer to help onboard a new employee to take over your role.

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    Give a two week notice

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    Give ample notice before you resign.

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    Don’t bad mouth the previous design. Acknowledge the conditions it was made under, and how far it got the company. Redesign based on new requirements not being met.

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    Don't tell them what you really think

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    Let them know that you're moving on to grow and do other things on your bucket list. Life is too short to stay where you're not happy and thriving. Keep the "door/lines" of communication open, in the event you want to come back. I've had great success with this.

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    Give early notice; be professional; cite the positive reasons you're leaving; note positives from the experience on the outgoing team & Be thankful, regardless of overall experience.

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    Give those you want to keep close a personalized note. Thank them for being a part of your life, and highlight what makes them special, and give them your personal email or personal cell number to keep in touch

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    Offer to help with whatever the team needs to keep them on a good footing after you leave.

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    leave on a good note and have an "adult" conversation when discussing your resignation

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    Don't talk badly about your team when you are leave. Give plenty of notice. Prepare your team to do the things you have been doing.

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    Leave on good terms and stay in contact with valuable resources.

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    Talk about all the things you have learned and the great experiences that they allowed you to be a part of. Flattery isn’t a terrible option. Then just be as professional as possible.

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    Maintain good relationships prior to resigning.

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    Give adequate notice and help to onboard replacement.

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    Lend a coworker a book I have read and then grab coffee or lunch a few weeks/months later to discuss. It normalizes post-employment communication and helps facilitate conversations about something other that work.

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    Keep your real thoughts to yourself

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    Lie about how much you loved your job

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    Maintain good relationships up til resignation, be diplomatic when submitting it, and communicate after leaving.

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    Yes it is possible some may even put in a good word for your next job.

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    Give appropriate notice, remain engaged until you're gone, stay in touch, collaborate/partner with previous co-workers/companies when possible.

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    Keep working to the end, prioritize a productive handoff.

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    Leave on good terms, clear communication, and talk as if your leaving the job not the people. Just say stuff like, "my time here is done. But let's stay in contact we may be able to help each other sometime. "

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    You should always remember that we live and work in a small world. You will work with these people again. Assuming you are resigning and have some control over when you actually walk out the door, treat others as you would like to be treated. Leaving without handing off your work is very bad. Leaving abruptly with no notice makes it hard for all the people on your team. It would be really nice if you would make yourself available by phone, video chat, or email to help your team out for a reasonable period of time after departing.

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    Put in a two weeks notice and work just as hard during those two weeks.

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    Keep in touch.

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    Be cordial. Be honest about your reasons, but polite. Don't point fingers or blame the wrongs of the company in a righteous diatribe. Offer to keep in touch with managers or coworkers you worked closely with and would like to keep a relationship with afterward.

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    Don't leave things a mess.

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    Stay in touch and leave on good terms.

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    Provide notice, transfer knowledge, and train to fill the gap you leave. Connect with people who are sad to see you leave on LinkedIn & network professionally.