I’ve been having some disagreements with my boss. What is the best way to productively discuss them with him? - Comparably | Comparably

I’ve been having some disagreements with my boss. What is the best way to productively discuss them with him?

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    He is a simple guy and very easy to communicate with verbally. He listens to everybody irrespective of your rank

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    Schedule a feedback one on one meeting so both can give and receive feedback personally.

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    be truthful - if they don't get resolved maybe it is a sign to move to the next opportunity.

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    Well I guess it would depend on how much u r disagreeing with ur boss. If it need intervention then go above his head and make a complaint. If things dont improve cut ur losses and work for a company that respects u.

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    Email your boss asking for an appointment time in which you may discuss some of the confusing changes being made that cause youto disagree with her decisions. Don't discuss the actual issues in the email; use this communication for the purpose of ASKING FOR AN APPOINTMENT. This way, your boss nor you have created any friction over the concerns you wish to discuss. Follow up until you get your time slot. When you arrive at the meeting, bring a bullet point list of the items you want to cover and refer to it often while listening to his responsives. It is best not to argue EACH issue one by one. JUST LISTEN to her reasoning as you have a light conversation based on your list. After your list is covered, mention your conflicting concerns. Let her know you are not trying to rock the boat, but rather understand how and why your previous methods are no longer acceptable and agreeable. Keep your cool even if you disagree. This is a BUSINESS DISCUSSION. Remain professional at all times

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    Face to face, objectively, no emotion, just facts and details

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    Your approach depends on the person your dealing with.

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    Provide solutions to your boss, if you have none, find time to frame the problem in a way that you are working together to a solution that makes their job easier or makes the company more successful.

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    Face to face. Then phone call. No email, no IM. Human to human is the best way to sole interpersonal conflict.

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    Setup a meeting ASAP

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    Sleep on the issues before approaching your boss if it just happened. Compose some talking points and base them on facts. If you are going to complain try to have a possible solution to the problem.

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    Straight forward. Pick the best time to talk directly.

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    Openly, professionally bring the topics of discussion up on a one on one call. Good leaders are open to constructive feedback. If your leader is not open, then still discuss, if negativity is received then unfortunately, you must go to their leader.

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    Don’t just bring problems. Offer solutions as well.

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    understanding how his performance is being judged and how his requests of you impacts those metrics. Try to come up with a plan that helps him more than the request you are disagreeing over

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    You can't. When it comes to the boss, you're either wrong or you're wrong. You're SOL if you disagree with your boss.

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    Honestly, confidence, assertive but not rude and be sincere and humble

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    Have a meeting with him to discuss your disagreements.

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    Ask for a meeting and go in with a smile. Ask her/him to help you better understand where they are coming from with xyz decisions.

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    politely request a meeting to discuss any ways to bring the ideas you are disagreeing together so the work environment does not suffer but instead moves into a better connect atmosphere we both agree on

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    Ask your boss if you can schedule some time to meet and discuss a concern you are having. This allows them time to evaluate and consider their behavior and response so they don't dismiss you off-hand. Then professionally state your concern directly and using "I feel" statements. People can't argue with your feelings. For example, "I feel that my workload has been increased disproportionately to the rest of the team and I would like some help."

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    I think coffee or a bottle of beer with my boss should work.

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    Discuss openly with facts

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    Make a case for your argument with facts and figures

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    ask for a meeting with HR and have you and your boss be there to discuss that the issues are and why there are any disagreements, usually a one sided problem on the bosses part

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    Ask for one on one time to discuss. Framing it as, “these things are distracting from the work and mission we are all here to do” and if they can be resolved then do so. If you disagree based on your professional experience or expertise and you know you are right and what s/he’s saying is detrimental but s/he is not willing to hear you out, you probably have to suck it up. Document your recommendations via email and then let it go. If this is the norm, it’s probably not a fit if you can’t be heard and can’t do your job tonthe best of your ability.

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    move towards collaborative problem solving instead of conflict