My boss asked me to come over for dinner to discuss my raise. What should I do?

Say no

Attend the dinner at a public place, and do not allow discussion about anithing personal.

Go, a raise really?

I should get there asap

If he/she had a spouse, I would ask: "Will we be joined by your wife/husband?" and if yes, i would go.

Politely decline. A dinner out(restaurant) to celebrate a raise or promotion or your boss inviting you to a group function is OK. But that invite is at best poorly thought out, or at worse putting you in a harmful situation to be accepted as it is stated.

If it feels ok just go. If you/your boss have an interest of nature other than work that you don't feel like I would try to make it a business lunch or meeting

Unless I already have a friend type relationship with my manager where we already get together socially, I would never go to their home to discuss a salary issue. Work issue should be discussed in the work place.

I will go for dinner and hear his thoughts about my stand and will ask him whether i am eligible for the raise i am expecting

Suggest going to lunch at a busy restaurant instead.

I would very politely decline. Then ask if we could discuss it at work.

I don't mix business and personal life.

Don’t go. You can find out at the office,

Go to the dinner.

Respectively decline with a no thank you.

Decline he is your boss not your friend

Suggest a public restaurant

I would have no problem with this.

A raise does not be discussed over dinner, especially at someone's home. Professionally explain that you would be more comfortable having business discussion at the workplace. Maybe a restaurant would be ok but at their home... unnecessary and inappropriate in my opinion.

I would request to arrange a private dinner in a public meeting place. Business, especially any type of promotion should never be a private dinner in the home. That arrangement could only lead to trouble.

Politely decline & request that any discussion of a raise be conducted at work.

Unless his wife will be there- suggest a casual restaurant instead.

I'd say no and say that you want to have the conversation about your performance and pay in the office. Then offer a date and time when you can meet.

Maintain appropriate boundaries and redirect to have that discussion in a workplace setting, so that blurred lines are kept out of the picture of salary discussions.

Go for it. As long as your moral compass is pointing north you’ll be good.

Ask to schedule during office hours, in the office.

This isnt a normal response for a manager to ask especially discussing a raise for you. This can be a case of quid pro quo. It all depends on how you feel. If you and your boss have a cool relationship that you believe will not lead to any ulterior motives. Then go for it. But the fact your having to ask about it is a red flag that you dont.

Its a weird and personal request. I would just say something to the effect of "If its ok with you, I'd rather discuss at the office with you tomorrow" . You can give excuses like your busy tonight and would want to have the conversation asap. Or even offer breakfast near the office, if they want a more casual atmosphere.

Ask for lunch instead

Be very cautious. If the request makes you uncomfortable you need to speak up; include an HR director and state your concerns. It doesn't have to be accusatory, but if you felt the need to ask what to do, that means that there are red flags going up in your mind.

Use my company at his or her dinner as a bargaining chip, and say let’s do the raise first, then talk food

Go to dinner

I would 100% decline (and frankly look for another job)... but I would politely decline, and remain transparent by saying, "I do appreciate your offer, however I would prefer to keep conversations about my job and compensation kept in the office."

It depends heavily on the relationship with your boss. At one job, that would have been very natural. At another, it would have been very inappropriate. The larger question, then, is what to do if your boss does something inappropriate. My take there is first try to remedy the situation in a professional manner. If that fails, gracefully leave and pursue something better.

Tell your boss a restaurant would work better for you

Call HR, you don't want the kind of raise he's offering

Say you would rather discuss it at your usual 1 on 1 or set up a meeting at work. So many red flags on that.